The Weakness in our Marriage

My husband and I have a weakness. A joint weakness, something that we struggle with the most when we are combined. We knew it was a weakness before we got married. See, it’s plagued us all along. It’s the root of most all of our fights. It’s something that I honestly don’t think we will ever overcome.

You see, we’re both incredibly stubborn. And reactive. And quick to assume. And quick to jump at each other over the littlest of things.

Our weakness is our communication.

He will say something completely harmless and without intent, and I’ll take it to mean a personal attack. I’ll let my frustration regarding one aspect of my life seep into my tone, and he’ll consider it as me placing the blame on him.

The only thing beneficial about this weakness of ours is that it constantly reminds me of how much we have grown. The always increasing likelihood that one of us (he) will say sorry, the ability we’ve gained to bounce back right after, the understanding we’ve come to have over our tendencies and quirks like this.

Our weakness, and our ability to overcome it, show us our strength. 

That’s one of my favorite verses, 2 Corinthians 12:9-10. For when I am weak, then I am strong. I’ve always interpreted it personally, applicable to me and my life, me and my relationship with the Lord. But isn’t is applicable in everything? The times when you are weakest, in an endeavor, in friendships and relationships, you get to see just how strong they really are.

So when we hear to delight in that, to honestly and truly be glad of our shortcomings… that means in all areas of our life. Not just with ourselves intrinsically, but in the ways in which we are able to see strength in all areas of our lives. Because in seeing strength, we must first acknowledge the weakness. And in acknowledging them, we see how far we’ve come.


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